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How often do you tell your spouse you love them?
Do you think you say it enough?
As we read the book, we quickly identified our love languages. Amy's love languages are receiving gifts and words of affection. Jay's gifts are physical touch and quality time. Throughout our marriage, knowing these love languages has proved helpful in knowing how to best speak love to each other.
Knowing these love languages has proved helpful in knowing how to best speak love to each other.
But, like so many things in marriage, we too often forget the important of speaking our love languages. This has never been more true than recently. It's three little, simple words, and yet they carry significant weight and importance. I. LOVE. YOU.
When you are married to someone who speaks with words of affirmation as one of their love languages, saying I Love You, is crazy important. And, wonderfully powerful. The trouble comes when you yourself are not one who is good at speaking words of affirmation.
I love Amy, like crazy. And, she know that I love her. Yet, she needs to hear me say those words to her. But since my love language isn't words of affirmation, I don't always think to say those words. I need to be reminded, often to tell Amy that I love her. But when I do...well, it's pretty great.
I love Amy, like crazy. And, she know that I love her.
As we make our marriage a priority, reminding each other to speak our love languages is something that we have to work. It's going to take a committed effort on both our parts, to speak the words of affection that we enjoy hearing. To help us do this, we are going to practice the following.
1. AM & PM
We're going to start and end each day by saying I love you to each other. It should be pretty easy, saying I love you, when you wake up and before you fall asleep. Wake up, roll over, say, I love you. As you climb into bed at night, lean over and say, I love you.
2. Text it All Day Long
If you haven't discovered the benefits of texting, you really need to. In the midst of a busy day, the ability to send a quick text message is crazy helpful. At any point during the day, you can pick up your phone, open you texting app, and send a short, I love you, to you spouse. And, it always feels good when they respond with their own, I Love You!
3. Leave a Love Note
It might sound a little strange, but sometimes writing, I Love You, is easier than saying, I Love You. Like I said, strange. But sometimes it's easier to write a short letter that reminds you spouse how you feel about them. Think about it, before texting, before IM, before email, before any other modern day messaging service, there was the love letter. Simple, yet the perfect way to express your feelings. When was the last time you wrote a love letter to your spouse? Why not take a few minutes and write one today.
I love you. Simple words. Without them, a distance grows. With them, an intimacy that demonstrates your priorities. Love your spouse. Tell your spouse you love them. Make your marriage a priority.
- the higham family
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