If you are a regular listener to family related radio programs, you might be familiar with the concept of saying, Yes!, whenever possible. The idea is this, try to say Yes more than you say No. So think about some of the typical requests that your kids make. The requests could be anything. Now, how many times do you say No instead of saying, Yes?
Since this blog is about honesty in parenting, we say No, a lot. Perhaps too much. How do we know? Because we're beginning to hear it from our kids. It goes like this...
"Son, why didn't you just ask me before you decided to go and do what you did?"
Son's response, "Well, I figured if I asked, you'd just say, No."
Ouch! The truth hurts.
We do say No a lot. But what we are discovering is with all the No's comes a lot of disappoints and a lot of missed opportunities. So we have decided, that whenever possible, and as long as the request is reasonable, we are going to try to say Yes. Now there will be time when we will have to say No. Timing might be bad. We might not have the money to say yes. Or, simply for specific reasons that only we as parents see and know, we will still have to say No to some requests. But as much as we can, our goal is to say YES!
Here's why. Up to 2012, we said Yes more. In saying Yes, we had more fun as a family. We laughed more. We cried more. We enjoyed our time together more. Yes, led to fun family outings, opportunities to watch our kids do amazing things, and more spontaneous adventures. But since we made our move back to the Pittsburgh area, the No's have been in abundance and that has left us regretting opportunities that we might have missed out on.
So as part of our desire to be more intentional in 2015, we are learning to say, Yes. And two of the little requests that we have said Yes to are these two, adorable little bunnies.
We picked them up this weekend from friends of ours in Somerset.
They are 5 weeks old and absolutely perfect! The kids are so excited!
We've had rabbits before while we lived at the camp in Jennerstown. We had 4, one for each boy. They were an opportunity to teach the boys how to care for something. This will be Breya's first time caring for a rabbit.
More than learning to say, Yes, this bunnies will serve a purpose. While teaching our kids how to care for something, rabbit droppings make great fertilizer.
Okay, so the bunnies might be an easy way of saying, Yes. But the principle is still something we as parents should consider. When you can, trying saying, Yes, and watch as it changes the atmosphere around the family! Learn to have fun with your kids. Say, Yes!
- the higham family
Hi we're Jay & Amy, and we've been married for 19 years and are super blessed to be busy raising our 5 kids; 4 boys and 1 girl. We juggle the adventures of life and ministry and share what we are learning as it relates to marriage, family, raising kids, serving as pastors, and chasing afer Jesus. Raising a family is hard work, especially in today's culture. But our hope is to encourage you and your family, as we live for the glory of God.
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