Two Ways to Love Your Husband Better - Satisfy

The second thing I've learned, is the importance of Satisfying your husband.

​I know this can be a touchy subject and some of us may not want to hear this today or ever, but I know the Lord has laid it on my heart to talk to you about this. So here we go.

Ladies, I know you are in an exhausting season of your lives with your little ones and that's often the last thing your thinking about throughout the day. You've spent your day making meals, cleaning up meals, dressing children, playing with toys, cleaning up toys, washing laundry, running errands, and wiping everything from countertops to rear ends. Your day is exhausting- no question about that. Let me tell you from experience that while your daily routine may change, your level of exhaustion generally will not.

Now, I'm not trying to discourage, just being real. I feel like I have days now where I am more exhausted then when I had 5 under 9 at home.

My point is that you can't use exhaustion as an excuse not to be with your husband if you're thinking you'll be able to reconnect and satisfy later when you have more energy or more time. Welcome to Motherhood!

I made a decision early on that I wanted to be the one my husband wanted, dreamed about and desired forever. So I learned what the Bible had to say about intimacy and sex in a marriage.

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My point is that you can't use exhaustion as an excuse not to be with your husband if you're thinking you'll be able to reconnect and satisfy later when you have more energy or more time.

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“Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it.”  ~ 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 MSG
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Sexual intimacy is another area that our world has completely twisted, causing all sorts of sexual confusion and perversion. We've been told our bodies are ours to govern, and they are outside of marriage. But once we become one before God with our husbands, our bodies belong also to our husbands. This is not meant to be something that is not fun and causes tension in a marriage. Rather it is a precious gift that God has given to 

married couples and when we focus on it that way, it will change our whole outlook and our marriages will be richly blessed in intimacy and so much more.

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This is not meant to be something that is not fun and causes tension in a marriage. Rather it is a precious gift that God has given to married couples.

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Okay, so we know it doesn't take much for our husbands to get in the mood. But for us, it takes a little more effort on our parts to get ourselves into a frame of mind where we can be attentive to our husbands needs.

I would encourage you to creatively explore ways you can be more available to satisfy your husband and he in turn, you. For as much as Paul instructs the men to be available for the wife, and the wife to be available for the husband, we need to keep in mind that sex is for mutual pleasure. Both are to be satisfied. Both are to serve.

​Now let's think about this in the ways we are different. Intimacy for most women comes in knowing that our husbands love us. It's in things like handholding or snuggling on the couch during a movie. We feel loved when our husbands do the dishes, fold the laundry, or bring us coffee in the morning. Where we might be able to get by just knowing that our husbands love us, our husbands don't think in the same way.

Love for them comes in the intimacy of sex. They feel most loved when we are fully connecting with them in the moment of intimacy. For as much as you might not be thinking about making love to your husband tonight, chances are HE is thinking about making love to you.
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So how do you begin to find time and energy to satisfy your husband?

Maybe you schedule a weekly date night. Maybe you need to communicate clearly with each other about what you like and don't like; remember you can't read each other's minds.

Maybe you need to take a nap, like I did, when your little ones are napping so you have a little more energy in the evenings.  Maybe you can be more available in the mornings or in the middle of the night!!

Maybe, and the most important thing here, is you need to commit this topic to prayer asking God to renew your passion and give you energy to seize any opportunity that may arise.
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And let's be honest, ladies, there is temptation all over the place for our men. From commercials to magazines, TV shows to the Internet, to simply how some women dress, it doesn't take much to get a mans juices flowing. Yes, we're going to be tired. Yes, we're going to want to go to bed as soon as possible. And No, we might not always be in the mood as often as they are. But if we forget how important sex is to our husbands, we run the risk of temptation rearing it's ugly head in our marriages. God knew that, that's why he had Paul write to the church in Corinth concerning intimacy in marriage.

​I promise you, if you make the effort to woo your husband, you will find it to be worth it in the long run.
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Ladies, there is temptation all over the place for our men.
From commercials to magazines, TV shows to the Internet,
​to simply how some women dress.
Girls, it doesn't take much to get a mans juices flowing.

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We're different. There's no denying it. It's why we were made male and female. But it's in our differences that we begin to discover how we can best serve one another. For us as women, as wives, as mothers, we long to be loved, cared for and secure. For our men, our husbands, the father's of our children, they long to be respected and to enjoy you intimately. If you want to have a deeper relationship, despite the differences, make a commitment to respect and satisfy your man. And in doing so, we make our homes, our marriages, a safe place where they will long to be, because they know they will be respected and desired.

I pray that you and your husband would experience a deeper, richer, more passionate relationship.

God bless you!

​- amy

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Amy is an amazing mother of 5, 4 boys and 1 girl. Her passions lie in caring for her family, mentoring young moms, and speaking into the lives of women. She and Jay have been married for 19 years, and have been so blessed to be able to share in ministry to families together. Be sure to follow Amy on her social media channels. [ Click Here ] To inquire about the possibility of Amy speaking to your women or mom's group, contact her through the blogs contact form. And thanks for all your support.